Specialities - Improve Self Worth
Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.
Malcolm Forbes
We are created to be in connection with others. In fact, our sense of self can only be realized in relation to others. Strained or loss of friendships, parent-child dynamics, workplace colleagues dynamics and romantic relationships can cause unbearable loneliness, shame, doubt or guilt. It can impact all areas of our lives.
Some symptoms of strained relationships in your life:
Anxiety
Did you know that feeling anxious and worried is an innate part of being human? When you feel anxious, your body is telling you to take immediate action in the situation.
For example, when you need to cross the road and your body is alert and telling you to worry about cars around. So you take action by stopping and checking for safety before crossing the road. If your body did not alert you or if you did not pay attention to the alert, you may have been harmed.
This logic applies to other situations where anxiety is more noticeable in more troubling circumstances. Your body may freeze, your breathing quicken and heart rate goes up to signal warning to you that something is wrong (i.e. our physical, emotional or moral boundaries were violated) and needs to be cared for.
When anxiety is unmanaged and neglected, the body alert gets worse to the point of panic attacks, sleep insomnia or chronic digestive or immune related illnesses. It impacts our capacity to enjoy simple pleasures and can cause us to retreat in social isolation. We may feel depressed and restless, thinking that we are less worthy and weak to handle life’s situation.
Negative Beliefs leading to Depression
When you think “You’re not good enough”, “I feel ashamed about my actions”, “You don’t deserve to be happy”, these can be unconscious thought patterns stemming from old attachment wounds from the past that are triggered from present situations.
When negative beliefs are not put into check, the emotions of sadness become unmanaged. Further, the capacity to see the good and strengths within yourself diminishes and you can start to really believe that you are not good enough or worth anything.
Losing Life Direction
When we don’t believe that things can get better, we lose the will to hope for the better in our workplace, home life and relationships. This is when we can get lost in life. The meaning of hard work and self-worth feels pointless.
You can build your self worth and take control
Can counselling psychotherapy help to improve your self-worth?
With evidence-based techniques, trust, courage and gentleness, you and your therapist can begin to identify the root issues at your own pace and how it affects your physical, emotional and mental well-being.
At Know Me Well, the multi-pronged approach to improving self-worth includes:
- Building our self-awareness towards the intrapersonal dimension of our inner critic, core emotions, boundaries and values.
- Reflecting on the interpersonal dimension of what we believe of others and the world in relation to ourselves.
- Rediscovering our inner strengths, life meaning and hope to face the challenges ahead and improve life satisfaction.
- Practicing preventive and coping mechanisms to notice and deal with your unique physical symptoms and boundaries in life.